We are drawn to the familiar. To experience something new, we need to become familiar with the thoughts and feelings in our minds and guide them to be consistent with the life of our dreams.

Our thoughts are the guiding force of our behaviors. Habitual thoughts may cause us to repeat unhappy patterns. These weekly Affirmations and Tips are designed to help you replace these habitual thoughts to enhance your life and your relationships.  

Kind 

I am kind and gentle in the way I talk to others.

I realize the way I approach or respond to others will set the tone of the communication we share. I make sure that my pace, my facial expressions, my words, and my tone are kind.

I realize that impatience or a skeptical facial expression will change how I am received. I have a choice to be kind, no matter what the circumstance, the nature of the relationship, or the content of the conversations.

I make eye contact and smile when I speak to others. This simple practice provides a connection that affirms the value of the other person. I hold the belief that all people deserve to be treated kindly.

 

Tip:  Since the 1980s, neurophysiologists have been studying mirror neurons and have discovered that these neurons are critical in our social interactions and development. These are the neurons employed by babies as they learn to emulate and understand facial expressions and many social interactions. Mirror neurons are also employed by sports psychologists to help athletes acquire skills through observation.

By prioritizing kindness and carefully thinking about what being kind looks like, you will become an example that others will naturally follow. Intentional kindness has a great capacity to influence others neurologically. Be the example to those in your life. Do not wait for others to talk kindly for you to be kind. Observe your own behavior and determine that you will present in a way you would appreciate in return. Treating others as you want to be treated is actually really sage advice. 

©2019 Laura Aube

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Imago Relationship Therapy provides you and your partner a safe place to learn how to engage in healthy communication. Utilizing Imago Therapy with your partner can deepen your relationship and your love and acceptance of one another. In a private couples or family Imago Therapy session, you receive expert guidance and practice using tools like curiosity, listening, receptivity, and understanding.

I would be honored to help you on your journey of living from your true self and creating relaxed, joyful relationships. To learn more or schedule a session, call (816) 359-1885 or email laura@creativegrowthandhealing.com. 

Laura Aube, LPC, ATR-BC, Certified Imago Therapist
creativegrowthandhealing.com
Email: laura@creativegrowthandhealing.com
Phone:  816-359-1885
Address:  207 South Washington Street, Raymore, MO 64083

Laura Aube is a licensed Counselor in the State of Missouri. She has advanced training as a Certified Imago Relationship Therapist, as well as a fully-credentialed Art Therapist. Laura has twenty-five years of experience as a therapist and specialized expertise in grief, trauma, couples, and family therapy.